Story by: Motsieng Mooketsi
Klerksdorp:The second installment of “A Queen Is A Goddess” under the banner “Fix Another Queen’s Crown” took place at the Klerksdorp Recreation Centre on 09 August this past friday.
This event is part of the country’s celebrations of women’s day and month, it is also a commemoration of the 20, 000 women who marched to the union buildings on 09 August 1956 against the unjust pass laws that were implemented by the apartheid regime then.
Seipati Ngwejane is a businesswoman and the founder and organiser of “A Queen is A Goddess” event, and this year…they focused on “Survival”. It was inspired after seeing two young women arguing on facebook, she sent them both inbox massages to intervene only to find out the young women didn’t know what they were fighting about, and the idea of the event was born, in an attempt to bring women in Matlosana together fix each other’s imperfections “Crowns”.
“I’am A Survivor” is the theme chosen for 2019, to spread massage against rape, how to fight, live and accept yourself when living with an illness, incest and morality in an effort to assist other women with regards to the social ills young and older women are facing in South Africa on a daily basis.
Two women spoke of their rape survival and having to live with this ordeal that will forever be part of their lives. According to Wikipedia South Africa is amongst countries with the highest sexual offences in the world.
Masabata Mandla is a one of the women who stood on the podium to tell a painful story of being raped by a manipulative boyfriend in grade 12, Mandla who was emotional as she gave details of the night the incident took place, says she had to overcome a lot because of what she went through “I asked myself why and how could someone be so cruel and heartless to take someone’s power, and show no remorse at all”.
The perpetrator has since died and Mandla says that she feels no pain at all, the guy had apparently did the same thing to another lady before, ahe didn’t get justice as the docket went missing.
In 2018 Masabata Mandla saw Ntsiki Mazwai share her story of molestation as a young girl last year on twitter, This enable her finally reduce the burden she had been carrying for years down and finally shared with others what she went through, “I hated myself, i hated every inch of my body and blamed myself for something i did not do to myself, but! I had to make a choice, cause i had let something that someone did to me take control of my life, and this guy was living his life“.
Tebogo Tau, brokedown into tears when she told her horrific story she was raped by guys from her neighborhood, in 2010. She recalls the day and says it was on the 9th of June…just before the FiFa World Games.
“We had gone out with friends at a popular pub called Miller Lounge in town, and we were drinking, and my boyfriend came to pick me up, when we got outside six guys approached us and they took out knives and took me away from my boyfriend”.
Tau says she remembers waking up at the police station after passing out in the park, the police told her they had found her passed out.
She was teased by a girl at school after the horrific incident, and later the same girl became a victim of rape by the same guys, this led to the gang’s arrest and sentencing, Tau says four of the guys have now died and one is in jail, the other has served his sentence and his back on the streets.
Another young woman stood up from the crowd and made a confession of her rape ordeal, “After listening to the speakers, i feel it’s time i shared my story, for the first time ever, i’ve never told anyone this, My uncle raped me when i was only 10 years old, back in 1998 or 1999“.
The young woman says her father was rejecting her and denied that, his is the biological father, an excuse the uncle would use by lying to the family that he was occasionally taking her to see her father, all the while raping her, the young woman is married and says she has not shared the story with her husband, after telling the story she broke into tears profusely.
The amazing and fascinating story of Bosa Ledwaba who has been living with cancer for the past 40 years, her story is one of survival and triumph, she gave an indepth journey of a person living with this disease, in this case herself.
“First of all, what you need to know is that a person living with cancer is always in pain all the time, i have replaced parts of my body, including thumbs, joints, spinal disks and a hip cave“
Ledwaba says cancer itself is not dangerous, the danger is chemotherapy, she says she has learned to accepted herself and worries less, something that helps her cope with this disease.
Ledwaba encouraged both males and females to use self examining tips offered by doctors for both breast cancer and prostrate cancer.
Lebo Lekgetho added a male voice to the occasion and spoke about the coexistence of males and females, Lekgetho says in a world which is pro women’s voice, men should not be forgotten, alluding to mothers who deny fathers the right to see their kids, Lekgetho said “It is a painfull experience what some of you ladies put us through, nothing kills me like having to go through court just to see your child“
A mother’s guilt is one story that had everyone in awe, Cylia Motsoeneng Zengele had everything that a women can dream of, together with her family they lived a lavish life.
“People envied my family and what we had and how we lived“, little did she know that her husband was continuously raping their daughter, everything would have a twist when the daughter decided to speakout, “I did not believe it and refused to listen to what my daughter told me”, Until one day she dreamt of the rape in the same manner the daughter told the story.
When the truth finally came out, she was defeated, it was late and her daughter told her to take a knife and stab her to finish what the father had started, because she didn’t believe her daughter all along.
Cylia was in so much pain that she became motionless and could not do anything until she had the courage to speak about this, she is now telling this story not only to women but! men as well so that parents should listen to their kids and protect them.
The last speaker Nonki Motsapi is a motivational speaker, who found her strength back when she moved to Klerksdorp after a failed marriage in her hometown in the Vaal, she gave a powerful motivation to all the guests and congratulated the previous speakers for their courage of sharing such paiful stories.
Mrs Seipati Ngwejane thanked everyone who took the time to be at the event, the sponsors, and those who supported by purchasing tickets, from both Matlosana and other places.
Ngwejane says she felt demoralised after she put in so much time to organising only to have a poor turn out at the event, she said! “Last year i spent my own money to organise this event and this year it was funded and people did not show up, i have decided i will no longer continue with it“.
The ladies didn’t like what she said, they encouraged her not to give up, some even offered to sponsor some of the logistics for the 2020 edition.
The 2019 “A Queen Is A Goddess” Was sponsored by:
DMBE, JUMO Construction, Moleah Construction, Kings Associates, Maimane Marawa, Dr Tshegofatso Gopane, Mr Tumelo Gopane, and Kleva Van Maglera
Decor Dazzling Events and Chef Mamlaba on the food.